Making love without coitus

Not all lovemaking has to result in sexual intercourse. Making love without coitus can stir the deepest currents of our sensuality. To truly make love is to cherish all parts of our partner and ourselves--body, mind, and spirit. What is needed for creative “outer-course”? In a work, creativity. In such endeavors, two minds are usually better than one. These are some passionate things the two of you can do together:

1. Water play Bathing and showering together relaxes our minds and enhances comfortable feelings, about our bodies.

2. The power of touch Burn incense, light your favorite color candle, and then give your partner a foot, hand, big-toe or face massage. Use fun appendages like your tongue to get the job done.

3. Passion play Talk about your fantasies, write them down, and then enact the ones you both are comfortable with from beginning to end.

4. Hot food Together, prepare foods that are supposed to be aphrodisiacs, such as chocolate, persimmons, and oysters, and then feed each other.

5. Eros aloud Read erotic fiction aloud to each other.

6. Seductive snuggling Get undressed, and lie as close together as possible without touching. If one person can't stand the heat and just has to reach out, then only that person can touch. The other must keep his or her hands to the side, no matter what devilish tricks a partner may have in mind.

7.Pillow talk Spend a certain amount of time in bed talking, laughing, playing--just having fun!

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