That much-desired special something that makes heads turn and hearts throb. That certain aura that emanates so strongly from a man that a woman gets weak-kneed, and that sensual femaleness that can make a guy forget his prior commitments.
A woman's mind or personality--whatever it is that makes her uniquely herself--is indeed the first erogenous zone. A man is intrigued and challenged by a woman who is an interesting person in her own right, whose personality has enough depth to provide that essential ingredient for any successful relationship between men and women--the masculine need for meaningful conquest. The woman who relies on the appeal of physical conquest alone finds that this appeal is very short-lived.
The person who doesn't feel lovable or good enough doesn't project sex appeal. It's important that you feel good about yourself, and if you do, others will be attracted to you. You will have sex appeal.
Following are some tips on how to enhance your sex appeal:
* CLOTHING--Personality and sex appeal are reflected in one's attire, but that doesn't mean that you must be dressed in expensive designer fashions to look good. Quality and good taste are key factors here; versatility and color are also important. Yes, red is still the "hot" color, but its magig works in a conservative suit as well as in a form-fitting knit dress. Women should also consider violets and pinks. And, of course, black is always seductive when coupled with the right body, the right style, and the right attitude.
However, it takes more than color to make you unforgettable. Update your wardrobe, but be careful to select clothing to accent your best features and camouflage your flaws. If you have fat knees or bowed legs, no short skirts, please. Try longer skirts or a fashionable pants suit. Shapely legs are indeed an asset, and with today's wide range of fashionable clothing, there are plenty of opportunities to show them off.
Sexy men don't wear bell-bottoms, ill-fitting suits, and lint-covered sweaters. Yes, flattering attire is just as important to a man's appeal as it is to a woman's. If you have a broad chest, then show it off during your leisure hours. And business suits can be a big turn-on for many women, especially if the suits are well-tailored from quality fabrics.
Both men and women should take care with how they look during their leisure time and when retiring in the evening. Get rid of those tattered bathrobes and frayed gym pants. Invest a little time and money in silky lingerie and take not of how your sex life improves.
* SKIN CARE--The skin can be one of your most sexually appealing assets, and both men and women should take great pains to ensure that their skin stays soft, beautiful and healthy. On a regular basis, exfoliate the skin on the entire body with a cream or loofah sponge. Use creams and lotions to help your skin retain its natural moisture. Use a good facial cleanser keyed to your skin type, followed by an astringent for oily skin and toner for dry skin, and then a moisturizer.
For women, makeup should be natural looking to accent their best features rather than an attempt to create a new face. Too much makeup can leave you looking cheap and unattractive. Both men and women should take extra care with their lips, which can be a very appealing asset. Keep them moisturized to prevent chapping and splitting.
* PERSONAL HYGIENE--It's the little things in life that matter, and that holds true for your love life as well. Shower or bathe and then splash on perfume before retiring in the evening. Take the extra time to give yourself a manicure and pedicure on a regular basis. Rough feet, hands, knees and elbows are turn-offs, so make yours more appealing with proper care. And halitosis is a proven killer of sexual desire, so keep your breath fresh with proper brushing and flossing. Rinse with a mouthwash frequently, and always keep chewing gum and mints handy.
* HAIR CARE--Without a doubt, your hairstyle is the crown of your personality as well as your sex appeal. It attests to how you feel about yourself. Hair should be washed and conditioned at least once a week, but see a professional stylist or barber for a cut and style that is flattering to your facial features.
Also, take care to get rid of unwanted hair on othe rparts of your body. Hair protruding from the nose and ears is repulsive, not sexy. Women should go to extra pains to get rid of "mustaches" and "whiskers" and other unwanted hair. Men should make sure their mustaches and beards are trimmed neatly.
* YOUR BODY--A trim, physically fit physique is an essential ingredient of sex appeal, for not even the most beautiful and expensive suit or dress looks good on a fat, out-of-shape body. Even if you aren't obese, it is wise to exercise regularly and keep your weight down. Start by spending 15-to-30 minutes a day doing calisthenics and aerobics.
If you have a bulging waistline, try some situps and leglifts to tighten those stomach muscles. Get out and enjoy the great outdoors by jogging, bicycling, fitness walking, swimming or playing tennis. In addition, modify your eating habits and cut out excessive fats, sugars and unhealthy foods. A well-balanced diet with lots of fresh fruits, vegetables and grains will help you look and feel better.
As the pounds and inches melt away, you'll feel better physically and mentally.
And when you feel good about yourself, you'll naturall be more sexually appealing.
